Friends & Friendship Influence

Many people expect that their friends will always be there. They expect friendship to last forever.

Yet, friendships end and friends part company everyday. Unfortunately, even the best maintained friendships can end.

Many end because of a change in personality or lifestyle when friends just drift apart and fade away with time. There is a retreat from self-disclosure and seeking out each other's company. Avoidance begins. The friendship slowly loses importance and finally disappears.

Someone said me, "The end of our friendship was a gradual thing. I moved from one side of the metroplex to the other. We had over an hour's drive to see each other. For a year or so, we met very few time. Then our friendship began to taper off."

Someone else wrote me, "I didn't even know the friendship was over until I caught myself thinking of you as a former friend. In the past tense rather than the present."

One of the best friend explained, "We started seeing each other less and less. The friendship was just over."

Other friendships break up suddenly from a disagreement or move to another town.

But I truly believe that a friendship or any other relationship fails because of three things:

• Unexpressed expectations,
• Undelivered communication,
• And/or thwarted attentions

Yet the biggest threat to a friendship is change.

For example, moving from single life to coupled life has a great effect on friendship. Coupled persons often feel their single friends act interested in them only when a romantic prospect is not in sight. They may feel jealousy for or neglected by a single friend's new social life. The single friend may feel awkward and withdraw from a world of twosomes. Divorced and widowed people often have a feeling of being abandoned by old friends.

And So on... but still all those things are just a state of mind...

Communication, expectation and care are much more important!

In 28 year of my life i just understood this now...